Get A Life...

 

Preferably your OWN life...because I'm taking mine back!

You Want A Divorce?

     He flew into a blind rage when she told him she wanted a divorce. Then on the next day, he pretended that nothing had ever happened; he hoped she would just fall back into her place and stop her nonsense. But something about her had changed during the last few months - she was getting some backbone. 

     He began stalking her on the day she left him. She belonged to him and he had no intention of letting her go. He had to, because he didn't know how to survive on his own. 

     "If I can just talk to her and play the heartbroken, repentant husband, she'll feel bad and stop this bullshit," he thought to himself.

      The bitch wouldn't answer her phone, so he got in his truck and started looking for her. Finding her was easy - til she called the police instead of opening the damn door! That pissed him off. 

      "I'll show her; she doesn't fuckin' know who she's dealing with."

     He stayed up all night, calling her so she'd suffer too. The next morning, he parked his truck at their daughter's school. He didn't think she'd cause a scene there; he thought wrong. The police showed up with his daughter in the cruiser. 

     Now, he started feeling alarmed, thinking "she's fucking serious this time. I've got to do something about this." 

    

Yesterday is Gone, but Tomorrow Awaits

Are you feeling abandoned, rejected, and lost? Are you pissed off at your ex for putting you through this nightmare? You would probably like to see them get a taste of their own medicine and suffer the same as you. It is normal to feel this way early on in a bad breakup, but there is one thing that separates your own feelings from your ex's: one of you will be relieved when the other moves on and finds happiness. The other one will fly into a rage, thinking "how dare they move on without me!"

That, my friend is the stalker's downfall. He can't let go of hate, and he remains frozen in time - those "good 'ole days" when he was livin' the life of his dreams; he had his cake and ate it too! But you are the one who eventually says "it's not worth my time and energy to hate." You let go and refocus on the next phase of your life. You don't want to look like him; immature, unrealistic, and pathetic. Life is too short for that kind of nonsense!

The stalker always gets what he wants and deserves - those depraved things that further destroy him: women, cars, drugs. He will be miserable every day of his life, knowing that he lost his most valuable possession, and that would be you. His psyche can't handle this EPIC FAILURE. So, everything you succeed at will be another reminder of his inability to succeed at anything that matters. He will wander and search for things to make him happy, but he will never again feel secure, like he used to when he had a home.

Cyberbullies and Cyberstalkers

Have we taught our children to be so "hardened," that they don't think twice about victimizing people? If we could get away with it, would us adults do the same thing to another human being "just for fun?"

Cyberbullying is what kids do, but those 18 years and older who engage in this cold-hearted activity are labeled Cyberstalkers. The logic here is that an adult is mature and intelligent, so he or she knows exactly how this depraved behavior affects the victim. Kids, on the other hand may not be "fully aware" of the impact it has on victims. 

However, a crime is in fact a crime; regardless of age. Why then is the topic not getting the attention that it has rightfully earned? People being tormented to the point of suicide certainly seems like a social problem that a variety of professional disciplines might want to weigh in on. Still there is little discussion of it.

Perhaps we are uncomfortable with the "virtual world," especially those who only use the computer when it cannot be avoided. Maybe we don't want to raise the issue due to concerns for our already eroding constitutional freedoms; free speech could be next. What if acknowledging this requires us to look in our own mirrors and admit that we don't really see anything wrong with being a little cruel.

In Twenty Years: A Poem

Twenty years later
so little has changed.
Children suffer,
mothers distraught;
waiting patiently for justice,
our silence is bought.

My child is grown now.
It's time I speak out,
afraid NO MORE,
restraints unbound;
saving the lives of my sisters,
til each voice finds her sound.

Freedom for families
who live lives oppressed -
with faith and hope,
alive and well;
bringing forth a future of peace,
they emerge from their cells.

Two decades forward,
will things be the same?
Beyond control
or safe and fair;
our daughters will live in shackles 
if they don't think we care.

©Tammy Cook; all rights reserved.

Social Media

Social media and privacy do not go hand in hand. Limit the personal information you put out there. It may be used against you by your stalker.

Revenge porn, threatening statments, and lies about your personal life; this is typical information a stalker uses as online intimidation. If you have tried to report distressing posts about yourself, you may have been told that most networks won't intervene without a court ordered subpoena.

Cyberharassment and Cyberstalking are the fastest growing internet crimes, and law enforcement is unprepared for it's onslaught. If you are a victim, copy everything including screenshots, and seek legal assistance from professionals with a proven track record of successfully handling this type of crime.